Advice for Mother at the time of Birth ~Spiritual Midwifery

“At a birthing, the mother is the main channel of life force. If she is cooperative and selfless and brave, it makes there be more energy for everyone, including her baby who is getting born. Giving somebody some makes you and everyone else feel good. You don’t have your baby out yet to cuddle and hold; so giving the midwives and your husband some is giving your baby some. If you are in a hospital, you can make there be more energy by finding someone you can connect and be friends with.

During a rush, keep your eyes open, and keep paying attention to those around you and to what’s happening. If you feel afraid or if something is happening that makes you uptight, report it—the midwives can help sort it out until it feels good.

Don’t complain, it makes things worse. If you usually complain, practice not doing it during pregnancy. It will build character.

Talk nice; it will keep your bottom loose so it can open up easier. It’s okay to ask the midwives or your husband to do something for you, like rub your legs or get a glass of water. Ask real nice and give folks “folks some when they do something for you.

Be grateful that you’re having a baby, and be grateful to your partner who’s helping you—it’s an experience that you only do a few times in your life, so make the very most of it, and get your head in a place where you can get as high as possible.

Remember you have a real, live baby in there. Sometimes it’s such an intense trip having a baby that you can forget what it’s for!

Learn how to relax—it’s something that requires attention. You may have to put out some effort to gather your attention together enough that you can relax.

Keep your sense of humor—it’s a priceless gem which keeps you remembering where it’s at. If you can’t be a hero, you can at least be funny while being a chicken.

Remember your monkey self knows how to do this really well. Your brain isn’t very reliable as a guide of how to be during childbirth, but your monkey self is.”

Excerpt From: Ina May Gaskin. “Spiritual Midwifery.” Book Publishing Company. iBooks.

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Knowing your Uterus – Retroverted Uterus P.1

Many women including myself have swayed through life not understanding why we suffer from health disparities. We often face issues like PCOS: Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome, PMS, Fibroids, experience miscarriages, and infertility for years without understanding why and usually are told to treat the pain and discomfort with drugs rather than being educated about the cause of the syndrome and encouraged to create a lifestyle suited for our personal predispositions.

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I was once lucky enough to have visited the most prestigious Emergency room I have ever been to. While living in Thomasville, NC when I started feeling lower abdominal pain in fear of it being cyst like I’ve had before, I was referred to an OB-GYN that was adequately trained. This OB was doing my follow up and wanted to thoroughly exam my pelvis to understand why I was having pain near my ovaries. After I mentioned having once suffered a horrific burst of an ovarian cyst that left me on bed rest for almost a month; She wanted to rule out all worst case scenarios. This doctor felt a sonogram was not sufficient therefore she went on to perform a vaginal sonogram on me. It was a bit nerve wrecking for me because I was not sexually active at the time but the information she provided me with during this exam made the whole examination worth it. My boyfriend at the time held my hand through the exam and made the experience less dreadful. This doctor proceeded to educate me about my uterus being retroverted.Image result for retroverted uterus

A retroverted uterus (tilted uterus, tipped uterus) is auterus that is tilted posteriorly. This is in contrast to the slightly “anteverted” uterus that most women have, which is tipped forward toward the bladder, with the anterior end slightly concave.

Symptoms of a retroverted uterus

Generally, a retroverted uterus does not cause any problems. If problems do occur, it will probably be because the woman has an associated disorder like endometriosis. A disorder like this could cause the following symptoms:

A range of causes for a retroverted uterus

Some of the causes of a retroverted uterus include:

Sexual problems

In most cases of retroverted uterus, the ovaries and fallopian tubes are tipped backwards too. This means that all of these structures can be ‘butted’ by the head of the penis during intercourse. This is known as ‘collision dyspareunia’. The woman-on-top position usually causes the most pain. It is possible for vigorous sex in this position to injure or tear the ligaments surrounding the uterus.

Fertility issues

It is thought that a retroverted uterus has no bearing on a woman’s fertility.

Retroverted uterus and pregnancy

In most cases, a retroverted uterus doesn’t interfere with pregnancy. After the first trimester, the expanding uterus lifts out of the pelvis and, for the remainder of the pregnancy, assumes the typical forward-tipped position.

In a small percentage of cases, the growing uterus is ‘snagged’ on pelvic bone (usually the sacrum). This condition is known as ‘incarcerated uterus’. The symptoms usually occur somewhere between weeks 12 and 14, and can include pain and difficulties passing urine.

Things to remember

Since learning about being with a retroverted uterus I realized how my physiology differed from other women. 1 in 6 women are born with a retroverted uterus. Some may live their wholes lives not knowing unless they inquire to find out or they experience some of the disparities I was dealt. Some of the causes are, painful sex, yeast infections due to high levels of acid in your ph., and painful periods. Some women learn about having this, way into their pregnancy and if their lucky enough they will have a Doula, who will instruct them on how to minimize the nausea episodes and perhaps provide some insight on why it is detrimental to eat the right foods for a more comfortable and easy going pregnancy.

It is very important to understand that our body parts are not separated. We often lose sight of the truth being that everything is connected and in tuned especially when we are not in tuned with our own bodies. We often pop a pill an ignore aches and pains when it can very well be our body telling us to pay attention BEFORE something goes wrong. I was grateful to have learned about my beautifully unique uterus because I was able to change my diet and life style in order to prevent things like fibroids, endometriosis, PMS and more. I learned early that my diet effects my PH-balance and if my PH (hormones) are off then my body becomes a home for disease and ailments especially when I am already sensitive because of the way I was created.

Before we continue our lives not knowing how magical and intricate our bodies are I hope we can all become a bit more curious about our Uterus’ and how different they can all be. Perhaps now we can tend to our personal needs as women and not be shocked when sudden issues begin to effect our health during our child bearing years.

The good news is that in most cases it is possible to have a baby if you have one of these uterine abnormalities:
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Uterus didelphys
This is an uncommon abnormality where the uterus has two inner cavities. Each cavity may lead to its own cervix and vagina. This means there are two cervixes and two vaginas. It affects about one in 350 women.

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Unicornuate uterus 

A unicornuate uterus is half the size of a normal uterus and there is only one fallopian tube. Because of its shape, it is described as a uterus with one horn. It is a rare abnormality, affecting about one in 1,000 women. It develops in the earliest stages of life, when the tissue that forms the uterus does not grow properly. If you have a unicornuate uterus, you probably have two ovaries but only one will be connected to your uterus.
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Bicornuate uterus
Instead of being pear-shaped, this type of uterus looks more like a heart, with a deep indentation at the top. It is called a uterus with two horns, because of its shape. It’s thought that fewer than one woman in 200 women has a bicornuate uterus.

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Septate uterus

This is where the inside of the uterus is divided by a muscular or fibrous wall, called the septum. About one woman in 45 women is affected. The septum may extend only part way into the uterus (partial septate uterus) or it may reach as far as the cervix (complete septate uterus). Partial or subseptates are more common than complete septates. A septate uterus may make it more difficult for you to conceive.

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Arcuate uterus
This looks more like a normal uterus, except it has a dip, or slight indentation at the top. It is a common abnormality, affecting about a quarter of women.

About one in six women have a uterus that tilts backwards toward the spine (retroverted uterus). This is not an abnormality. It won’t affect how your baby grows, although it may mean your bump starts to show later than for other women.

http://www.babycentre.co.uk/a551934/abnormalities-of-the-uterus-in-pregnancy#ixzz3yO1RFZ9i

I Hate Average Podcast – Average Jay

Ep. 15 Yasmintheresa Garcia Founder of the IbiOp App
Published on Sep 12, 2016

“We’re back took a little break for labor day hope you all enjoyed. Excited about the direction of the show and its only getting better! Today we had a chance to speak with Yasmintheresa Garcia she lets us know the origin of her work as a Doula. Describes her passion for help and informing our community about pregnancy and other health concerns. Excited to talk about the launch of her new App IbiOp where people can easily find information on Doulas and Midwives near them.”

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Give the Gift of a Doula

Do you know an expectant mother who deserves the service of a Doula?

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Are your friends or family planning a baby shower for you?

Consider having them all chip in for a gift certificate for doula services.

This thoughtful gift will help you and your partner have a more satisfying, memorable and joyful birth experience.

YtheDoula now offers Gift certificates for services including Prenatal & postnatal Doula, Sex education for females of all ages, Childbirth Education, massage therapy, and health coaching.

Breakdown of services offered: 

Birth Doula: The word “doula” comes from the ancient Greek meaning “a woman who serves” and is now used to refer to a trained and experienced professional who provides continuous physical, emotional and informational support to the mother before, during and just after birth; or who provides emotional and practical support during the postpartum period.

Postnatal Doula: A postpartum doula provides evidenced based information on things such as infant feeding, emotional and physical recovery from birth, mother–baby bonding, infant soothing, and basic newborn care. A postpartum doula is there to help a new family in those first days and weeks after bringing home a new baby.

Sex education:  Instruction on issues relating to human sexuality, including emotional, spiritual relations and responsibilities, human sexual anatomy, sexual activity, sexual reproduction, reproductive health, reproductive rights, safe sex, birth control (family planning).

Childbirth Education: class is a great way to prepare for labor and birth. Depending on where you go, classes range from a one-day intensive workshop to weekly sessions lasting a month or more. The typical class consists of lectures, discussions, and exercises, all led by a trained childbirth instructor.

Massage therapy: Is manual manipulation of soft body tissues (muscle, connective tissue, tendons and ligaments) to enhance a person’s health and well-being. *Acupressure inclusive*

Health Coaching: *Emphasis on Vegan health* A wellness authority and supportive mentor who motivates individuals to cultivate positive health choices. Health Coaches educate and support clients to achieve their health goals through lifestyle and behavior adjustments.

The New York Amsterdam News — Millennial doula

The 21st century lends itself to a shift in the role of women in society. Inspirational women have been around for centuries, with the 1990s giving birth to the next generation of creative and exceptional female activists.

At 24 years old, Yasmintheresa Garcia is one such outstanding individual. A Brooklyn native born to Afro-Dominican parents, she recognized her calling as a doula from a very young age. In addition to successfully managing her own doula practice, Ythedoula, Garcia is a midwife in training, community activist and vegan health coach. Doulas are not medically licensed.

Garcia gained interest in the vocation at the age of 12, when a number of fellow students became pregnant. “I started giving them advice and giving them emotional and educational support that they needed that they weren’t receiving from the community they lived in,” said Garcia in an interview.

Community uplift and female education is the reason Garcia has created a get together called Ythegirlshangout. A group for women of all ages and backgrounds come together in a sacred space to discuss everything from financial literacy to career goals and body images. “Things that we in our culture wouldn’t normally speak of in our household,” said Garcia.

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Let Your Voice Be Heard Presents: The Dreamer and Doer Series Featuring: Yasmintheresa Garcia

Each month, Let Your Voice Be Heard! Radio presents “The Dreamer and Doer Series,” which spotlights inspirational Millennials who are using their talents and influence to better their community and the world. In July 2016, we spoke to Yasmintheresa Garcia, the founder of YtheGirls “Hang out,” a Midwife in training, Prenatal & Postnatal Doula, Childbirth Educator, Vegan health coach and Acupressurist.

 

A fit pregnancy & a Doula who supports it!

Draya Michele is the star of VH1’s hit series Basketball Wives LA, a mommy of two beautiful boys, two twin stepdaughters, a fiancé, and creator of the beautiful and reputable swimwear line MINTSWIM. Among all that she is an actress and entrepreneur with a business savvy mind.

                     Draya’s Timeless Maternity Shoot                        

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Draya Michele caught my attention when I came across a photo of her at the gym while being pregnant. Immediately I decided to follow her journey throughout her pregnancy to see how she would stay fit during and after birthing her new joy. She recently shared her secrets to getting her body back snatched after giving birth in a recent podcast interview with Tia Mowry in her new show “Mostly Mom wih Tia Mowry.”

 

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At 36 minutes Draya Michelle begins to talk about her workout regimen and how she committed herself for the first time in her life to stay on a safe and consistent work out routine.

Draya went to the gym religiously, 5 days a week for 8 months and ate well!

This hot mama says, she never got back to her hot body; she never left. She didn’t get snatched back up, she worked her butt off and always stayed fit. Which breaks the stereotypes of the “all woman gain weight and get out of shape during pregnancy” myth. Draya also stated something very important that many of us may over look. I had to meditate on this also; She stated she went to the gym for 5 days consecutively weekly like clockwork. Now that is commitment! Almost as if her gym routine was part of her full time job and many of us could learn something from this. We must admit we don’t always take that much time out of our week to take care of ourselves let alone our personal health.

As a birth coach Doula, I cannot stress how important it is to do this. The nine months that a mum is pregnant should not consist of being so busy getting everything done before baby comes that she forgets to be still and enjoy the journey and evolution of your body. Mum’s can take even 20 minutes out their day at home to do yoga just to keep their body in motion, encourage their blood circulating and muscles reminded to stay active not stagnant so that when baby comes into the world and out of her body, the muscles in her body will remember to snatch back when ready.

 

Many celebrity mums like Ciara and Kelly Rowland seem to understand the importance of staying fit and active during their pregnancy. Some may think they do it to end up in the magazines weeks after giving birth but I believe they understand the more active you are the less risks involved during labor and postnatal recovery.

 

Draya Michele gave birth to her beautiful baby boy Jru all natural and even caught him with her own hands. You can catch the video on her Instagram page. I personally commented for her not to remove it because it is all too inspiring.  https://www.instagram.com/drayamichele/?hl=en

She also shared this beautiful message about her pregnancy and childbirth experience,

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Why not enough media on Celebrity Natural Birth? 

Lets be real, perhaps we didn’t see much coverage about Draya’s fantastic and inspiring birth journey because there were no endorsements involved. She claimed her truth by speaking out on having done it the healthy and simple way, work out, eat clean, stay committed, stay in harmony and birth your own way. Her way was in the hospital in silence with the least amount of hospital staff and a serene atmosphere. You can’t really capitalize off a Warrior mama’s super powers because only she holds her own power. Therefore I needed to share her inspiring journey that many over look. She looks great and is still glowing.

 

Birth Coaches/Doulas & What we do?

I have been fortunate enough to have worked with woman who have been athletes, lead a very active lifestyle or where determined to start. In working with these woman I have calculated why they have had natural and healthy labors and or recoveries after childbirth. Granted, we cannot control the law of the universe and every birth is different. However the mum’s that I have coach throughout their pregnancy have had great experiences based on a few tools that I shared with them.

Meditate : At home, before sleep in bed, while showering, in yoga, while reading. Just find that time for you to be still and conquer your thoughts and questions and concerns then talk to your Doula Birth Coach about them.

Stay Active: If you are not a former athlete I will advise on what the mother of Modern day Midwifery, Ina May Gaskin once said about the importance of doing squats or wall sits. It helps flex your pelvis and sincerely creates much needed blood flow in your abdominal area. (If there are concerns about squats inducing labor? Please do it at the discretion of your medical provider. Plus there is levels to squats. You don’t need to drop it all the way low if you are concerned.) Squats also build up your lower abdominal and lower back muscles which will strongly help when pushing your baby into the world.

Working out when pregnant is as important as working out when your not pregnant! It helps to reduce edema, stress, normalize hormones, stay in shape, increase blood flow, and balance hormones.

 

 

Remember!

Stay hydrated: Drink at least a gallon of water daily plus coconut water which has great vitamins and minerals for your body.

My practice consist of becoming an assistant to mum in whatever she desires her pregnancy and labor journey to be. As a former sports coach and dietetic intern I often encourage mums to take care of themselves as well as help them find the right resources they need. As a Doula I go to the gym or a pregnancy workout class with an expecting mum if she needs company or I educate her about her options for staying healthy and prepared for laboring her baby. After all, laboring is not this unbearable feeling mum’s experience. It truly is a right of passage that woman should celebrate and be excited for. All while, dad and Doula are massaging her or coaching her through contractions of course. Be sure to be open and let your Doula know what you want your labor experience to be like and ask her how to be the best care taker for you. We serve you mums. Its what we’ve been called to do. ~YtheDoula

 

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Top tips for activity in pregnancy

 

YtheDoula Diaries

Its a moment doulas don’t seem to talk about. Perhaps it is because maybe some of them missed it. Or maybe they are so caught up in the moment that it doesn’t even seem like its happening and once they walk away from the “job” site they forget about it because they don’t take it home with them; the mum does.

Its a moment that I can only equate to that feeling when you just get off  a roller coaster where you almost thought you weren’t going to make it. Or when you swim a few laps almost at the brink of exhaustion and you finally lift your head above water for that quick relief of oxygen. Or when your dribbling down the court with 10 seconds on the clock and its a tied game in 4th quarter and you shoot that buzzer beater, winning 3 pointer. Its pretty much like saying I love you after months of wanting to say it, feeling it but holding it in until you knew they felt the same and you feel the relief after they say it back. As I made sure the room was organized, free with enough moving space available, snacks and plenty of coconut water at mum’s reach, baby latched on to mums boob and daddy floating near his contribution to creation it was time for me to leave. It was a long but exciting 12 hours of work as mum transitioned through her stages of labor. As a doula I always decide to step outside and regroup myself and give my clients a moment to enjoy their sacred space. As I walked out the door I peaked to allow my spirit to give them the reassurance that I am just a room away. It was then when “That moment happend.” The moment where mum is holding her new born baby so close it can hear her heart beat and dad is so close to her face almost as if their spirits where kissing just as much as their lips were. ~YtheG