Advice for Mother at the time of Birth ~Spiritual Midwifery

“At a birthing, the mother is the main channel of life force. If she is cooperative and selfless and brave, it makes there be more energy for everyone, including her baby who is getting born. Giving somebody some makes you and everyone else feel good. You don’t have your baby out yet to cuddle and hold; so giving the midwives and your husband some is giving your baby some. If you are in a hospital, you can make there be more energy by finding someone you can connect and be friends with.

During a rush, keep your eyes open, and keep paying attention to those around you and to what’s happening. If you feel afraid or if something is happening that makes you uptight, report it—the midwives can help sort it out until it feels good.

Don’t complain, it makes things worse. If you usually complain, practice not doing it during pregnancy. It will build character.

Talk nice; it will keep your bottom loose so it can open up easier. It’s okay to ask the midwives or your husband to do something for you, like rub your legs or get a glass of water. Ask real nice and give folks “folks some when they do something for you.

Be grateful that you’re having a baby, and be grateful to your partner who’s helping you—it’s an experience that you only do a few times in your life, so make the very most of it, and get your head in a place where you can get as high as possible.

Remember you have a real, live baby in there. Sometimes it’s such an intense trip having a baby that you can forget what it’s for!

Learn how to relax—it’s something that requires attention. You may have to put out some effort to gather your attention together enough that you can relax.

Keep your sense of humor—it’s a priceless gem which keeps you remembering where it’s at. If you can’t be a hero, you can at least be funny while being a chicken.

Remember your monkey self knows how to do this really well. Your brain isn’t very reliable as a guide of how to be during childbirth, but your monkey self is.”

Excerpt From: Ina May Gaskin. “Spiritual Midwifery.” Book Publishing Company. iBooks.

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A fit pregnancy & a Doula who supports it!

Draya Michele is the star of VH1’s hit series Basketball Wives LA, a mommy of two beautiful boys, two twin stepdaughters, a fiancé, and creator of the beautiful and reputable swimwear line MINTSWIM. Among all that she is an actress and entrepreneur with a business savvy mind.

                     Draya’s Timeless Maternity Shoot                        

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Draya Michele caught my attention when I came across a photo of her at the gym while being pregnant. Immediately I decided to follow her journey throughout her pregnancy to see how she would stay fit during and after birthing her new joy. She recently shared her secrets to getting her body back snatched after giving birth in a recent podcast interview with Tia Mowry in her new show “Mostly Mom wih Tia Mowry.”

 

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At 36 minutes Draya Michelle begins to talk about her workout regimen and how she committed herself for the first time in her life to stay on a safe and consistent work out routine.

Draya went to the gym religiously, 5 days a week for 8 months and ate well!

This hot mama says, she never got back to her hot body; she never left. She didn’t get snatched back up, she worked her butt off and always stayed fit. Which breaks the stereotypes of the “all woman gain weight and get out of shape during pregnancy” myth. Draya also stated something very important that many of us may over look. I had to meditate on this also; She stated she went to the gym for 5 days consecutively weekly like clockwork. Now that is commitment! Almost as if her gym routine was part of her full time job and many of us could learn something from this. We must admit we don’t always take that much time out of our week to take care of ourselves let alone our personal health.

As a birth coach Doula, I cannot stress how important it is to do this. The nine months that a mum is pregnant should not consist of being so busy getting everything done before baby comes that she forgets to be still and enjoy the journey and evolution of your body. Mum’s can take even 20 minutes out their day at home to do yoga just to keep their body in motion, encourage their blood circulating and muscles reminded to stay active not stagnant so that when baby comes into the world and out of her body, the muscles in her body will remember to snatch back when ready.

 

Many celebrity mums like Ciara and Kelly Rowland seem to understand the importance of staying fit and active during their pregnancy. Some may think they do it to end up in the magazines weeks after giving birth but I believe they understand the more active you are the less risks involved during labor and postnatal recovery.

 

Draya Michele gave birth to her beautiful baby boy Jru all natural and even caught him with her own hands. You can catch the video on her Instagram page. I personally commented for her not to remove it because it is all too inspiring.  https://www.instagram.com/drayamichele/?hl=en

She also shared this beautiful message about her pregnancy and childbirth experience,

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Why not enough media on Celebrity Natural Birth? 

Lets be real, perhaps we didn’t see much coverage about Draya’s fantastic and inspiring birth journey because there were no endorsements involved. She claimed her truth by speaking out on having done it the healthy and simple way, work out, eat clean, stay committed, stay in harmony and birth your own way. Her way was in the hospital in silence with the least amount of hospital staff and a serene atmosphere. You can’t really capitalize off a Warrior mama’s super powers because only she holds her own power. Therefore I needed to share her inspiring journey that many over look. She looks great and is still glowing.

 

Birth Coaches/Doulas & What we do?

I have been fortunate enough to have worked with woman who have been athletes, lead a very active lifestyle or where determined to start. In working with these woman I have calculated why they have had natural and healthy labors and or recoveries after childbirth. Granted, we cannot control the law of the universe and every birth is different. However the mum’s that I have coach throughout their pregnancy have had great experiences based on a few tools that I shared with them.

Meditate : At home, before sleep in bed, while showering, in yoga, while reading. Just find that time for you to be still and conquer your thoughts and questions and concerns then talk to your Doula Birth Coach about them.

Stay Active: If you are not a former athlete I will advise on what the mother of Modern day Midwifery, Ina May Gaskin once said about the importance of doing squats or wall sits. It helps flex your pelvis and sincerely creates much needed blood flow in your abdominal area. (If there are concerns about squats inducing labor? Please do it at the discretion of your medical provider. Plus there is levels to squats. You don’t need to drop it all the way low if you are concerned.) Squats also build up your lower abdominal and lower back muscles which will strongly help when pushing your baby into the world.

Working out when pregnant is as important as working out when your not pregnant! It helps to reduce edema, stress, normalize hormones, stay in shape, increase blood flow, and balance hormones.

 

 

Remember!

Stay hydrated: Drink at least a gallon of water daily plus coconut water which has great vitamins and minerals for your body.

My practice consist of becoming an assistant to mum in whatever she desires her pregnancy and labor journey to be. As a former sports coach and dietetic intern I often encourage mums to take care of themselves as well as help them find the right resources they need. As a Doula I go to the gym or a pregnancy workout class with an expecting mum if she needs company or I educate her about her options for staying healthy and prepared for laboring her baby. After all, laboring is not this unbearable feeling mum’s experience. It truly is a right of passage that woman should celebrate and be excited for. All while, dad and Doula are massaging her or coaching her through contractions of course. Be sure to be open and let your Doula know what you want your labor experience to be like and ask her how to be the best care taker for you. We serve you mums. Its what we’ve been called to do. ~YtheDoula

 

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